Bonds!

For the past few weeks I have been hearing a lot of stories on strained relationships. Several of my acquaintances have either found or lost the deserved respect for their bonds recently. Most of it was based on self evaluation! The “I” played a more important role than the ‘We’. Well, even when you contemplate on the concept of thinking about an “I” in a relationship, there is no room for development! May be that’s the reason for my blind faith on the custom called marriage!! It starts with a ‘We’ and it never ends!

I remember reading this quote somewhere

“We all have a childhood dream that when there is love, everything goes like silk, but the reality is that marriage requires a lot of compromise”

Every relationship in every walk of your life requires compromise!! You can never even attempt to quantify these compromises! Some say that the less they compromise they feel good about the marriage, whereas some say that the more the compromises, more they feel good about the love they possess! But everything is based on the relationship! A bond starts with attractive forces, could be of any kind for that matter, physical, chemical, biological, resonantial or a combination of all. The completion of this attraction leads to the beautification of the bond!

Marriages are not special when it brings the 'perfect couple' together. It is when the imperfect couple learns to enjoy those differences! It’s those imperfections that are the specialties of every creation! Once we learn to enjoy those, I don’t think we would have problems defining the state of a relationship, because it’s constantly beautiful!

Life is a learning experience! For a while, in our early part of life we attempt to learn it alone and walk through, amidst those non-evaluatory decisions and realization of imperfections! But once we pass through that stage we are ready to accept and appreciate companionship! From that point on its team work! The beauty of this team work is that one will learn more about the initial stage that they thought have mastered! The rest of the learning curve is not easy as well, but if it’s accompanied by the realization of the beauty of companionship, the thorns are as beautiful as the roses!

‘The cure for love is marriage, and the cure for marriage is love again’. When you call yourself in to a relationship, mean it! And when you are in to that relationship, there is no question of walking back.