Tuesday, January 25, 2005


Newton derived that gravity was nothing when compared to his motivation to answer that apple-fall!

Motivation!! It is one of the main driving forces! To drink a cup of water you are motivated by thirst...to derive the impossible in your research you are motivated by knowledge! Even the most trivial action is motivated by some small thought!

Psychology texts define motivation as

* internal state or condition that activates behavior and gives it direction;
* desire or want that energizes and directs goal-oriented behavior;
* influence of needs and desires on the intensity and direction of behavior.
* the arousal, direction, and persistence of behavior.

Motivations direct those scattered thoughts! It organizes and processes our goal-oriented behavior!

How and where do one find this motivation!?

Often in this real world, we come across small factors that influence our every action!! For example, the main motivation for this brain drain across the continent was knowledge, money and respect. The motivation to stay in touch with current affairs is again, knowledge or not-stay-dumb factors! The motivation to make new friends is exploration and understanding! These kinds of factors that influence our thought process keeps changing based on the necessities and luxuries! However, the fundamental reason will always remain the same! That’s the main motivation factor. If one can find that fundamental in every work you do, the motivation automatically leaps high! It boils down to your passion.. at work, life or both. For instance, if your passion is knowledge you won’t be motivated to do the same thing again and again! Once you reach a saturation limit, there is no room for the developmental knowledge!! in that case you shift gears to another area. So, the best way to be the best in whatever you do is to find the fundamental and stick on to it!

May be all of us are motivated by happiness and peace more than anything else!! Are we forgetting to realize those in our lives by working hard to save for the generations to come!?! May be we are! How incoherent!!



I know I have promised to update this blog with thoughts more than happenings, but I could not stop myself from writing this. I will try to be clear and concise!

The news is that..on the January 25th 2 45 am IST our family was blessed with a boy kid through my brother and manni! Both the mother and the kid are doing fine! Its a strange feeling ...after a long time, I was awestuck by happiness...! I was always happy but when these kind of special occasions pop-up, the happiness is exponentially increased in a very short span of time!! I turned in to a mama couple of years ago...and now am a chithappa!! nothing can beat these feelings!!

Anyways, for people who have'nt got this news through my email and you are reading it here...please curse me for defying the laws of expectations but bless the kid for accecpting and respecting the laws of this-world-invitation!!

Tuesday, January 18, 2005

Concentric Circles of Importance!!

I was talking to my friend the other day! Surprisingly, we both have almost the similar kind of a philosophical idea on people-treatment! Probably this is the case with almost everyone who is reading this, may be you are not realising it. It is all about setting the level of importance to people based on various factors like comfortablity, intimacy, love etc.

Allrite! Here we go. Just a little high school chemistry.

The acquaintances are considered as electrons revolving in spherical orbits around the nucleus. Here even the people in the family are considered as electrons!! The nucleus will enclose yourself and your other half (just one other half). The most important people hold the initial orbital closer to the nucleus! You can have your parents and siblings in this circle...or may be even some friends! This could change for each and every individual! The next circle is for the kith and kin, which includes the closest buddies and the sometimes will also have some close cousins etc., the people you really care for! Then comes the acquaintances that you treat with more than just a Hi-bye...like someone you spend the whole day with but still finding hard to place them in the closest buddy list. An inexpendable acquaintance! Then finally comes the real hi-bye acquaintance! The people who are expendable.

On the whole, we can have it as

4th orbit- Expendable acquaintance
3rd orbit- Inexpendable acquaintance
2nd orbit- Friendship
1st orbit - Affection
Nucleus- Love

Ideally speaking, your other half would have to pass through these 4 orbits to penetrate in to the nucleus and be with yourself! This is the person you share your “everything” with!

The whole process itself is cumulative! To get through each and every orbit you will have accumulate the earlier orbit's property! Getting through the 4th orbit is based on resonance, respect and comfortablity! The 3rd orbit is through time and gestures! The 2nd orbit is through commitment, dependability! The final orbit is through possession without jealousy, affection, care etc., Finally to pass in through that orbit and to get in to the nucleus, you need that other property which you term it as "Love" It will have everything and something more than that. What is that something? Self-abnegation? Well, I have tried asking that to people, tried to read through philosophies, every damn possible thing! But never was convinced with any of the answers...!

Recently, My friend, in one of our whinny virgin talks said that "Sex is like god to him...never seen it in person and never have felt it as well!" May be love is like that too!! One will feel the bliss only through experience! May be its esoteric!

May be the whole idea itself is too complicated a thought. May be one should not qualify people in orbits. May be the nucleus will be penetrated without all these accumulations. Whatever it is! It is certainly not a thought to be overlooked!

Tuesday, January 11, 2005

Go easy - Find these movie quotes!

The past few threads have been serious ones! Let me take a break!

Here we are with some movie quotes...! I know that a bunch of regular readers can crack these quotes easily...try and tell me which movie is it from and who says it!

You can number em and list it in your comments! Lets see who cracks it first....and folks don't google it!


When you develop an infatuation for someone, you always find a reason to believe that this is exactly the person for you. It doesn't need to be a good reason, a bad one will do just as well. Taking photographs of the night sky, for example: in the long run that's just the kind of dumb irritating habit that would cause you to split up. But at the time - it's the charming eccentricity you've been searching for all these years.

I would rather have had one breath of her hair, one kiss from her mouth, one touch of her hand, than eternity without it. One.

I'm the only one on the face of the earth who realizes that you're the greatest woman on earth. I'm the only one who appreciates how amazing you are in every single thing you do -- in every single thought you have...in how you are with Spencer -- Spence...in how you say what you mean and how you almost always mean something that's all about being straight and good...

You fucking prick, we had a deal--you said you wouldn't fuck me and I wouldn't fuck you until we had this fuck out of the fucking picture. You crossed the line, man.

I'm not a smart man, but I know what love is.

A woman's shoulders are the frontlines of her mystique. And her neck, if she's alive, has the very mystery of a border town. It's the no man's land in the battle between mind and body.

And oh, I don't know if you're interested in this detail, but I was just about to tell you that I love him. I love him, and I don't care what you think. I love him for the guy he wants to be, and I love him for the guy he almost is.I love him.

Real loss is only possible when you love something more than you love yourself.

Life just stops sometimes!

Jan 10th 2004, I entered my dept office to learn that the secertary Connye had passed away due to a masssive heart attack or a brain aneurysm (possible from her smoking habits)! She was one of the few nicest women I have ever met. The worst part was that I saw her last on thursday and as usual had a nice conversation as I went by the office and never thought that would be my last meeting with her. It seems she was fine even on the Saturday night! Life just stops sometimes! It did around 4.30 am that sunday for her. This loss has cemented my hanging philosophy of being truly nice to everyone you know, in every moment you learn. She was one of the few who found ways to be happy even through trivial things and am sure she will rest in peace in the life after as well.

Friday, January 07, 2005


December 28th, responsibility struck us with values! The Target was Tsunami relief funds...! A small thought took its own proportion...ideas started pouring ...never realized its just 4 people in a single room with the same goal! Slide boards, flyers, organization details, making the necessary arrangements, where the money is going to, how is it being spent, everything was decided in a single eve! By the early a.m all were set to go!

The venue was outside Walmart! Strangers stopped by to know more about the legit of the op! From the crowd’s reaction, we thought we would make atleast $1000.00 in 3 consecutive day-stands! Considering the currency conversions, it was a decent amount of money for the survivors. All possible modes of communications were utilized, TV, newspaper, Radio, WOM...every possible thing...! Volunteers started coming in! By the end of 1st day...we had $630...great effort!

Second day people started to standby and ask more questions. One woman started crying after donating whatever she had. One man started to talk about the revelation book (bible) and prayed for every soul to rest in peace! One 6 yr old kid stopped by opened her purse, dropped all the money and said, "That’s all I have!!" A single person donated around $1200. Too many unforgettable gestures! The second day collection was $3187!

Third day-no words- $2766!

Inclusive of all local gas stations and other motel investments the three-day collection was more than $7000!!

The moment we finished the counting and realized that it was all for a good cause!! The feeling that you experience can never be described. Believe me its much better than anything ...name it however you want...its on par or may be beyond the feeling that world perceive in aspects like god, love, peace, etc.!

Tuesday, January 04, 2005


Imperfections prevail!

I keep telling my friend that its is not possible to be ideal! Its those imperfections that makes you human. One should know that its the ideality that we are progressing towards!! Imagine if we react the best possible way to every friend and acquaintance of ours, life won’t be interesting! This doesn’t mean that you should be imperfect all the time to make yourself interesting! Imperfections should exist until you learn about it.

In the movie "Memento", Nolan delivers that, "The world doesn't disappear when you close your eyes, does it? My actions still have meaning, even if I can't remember them"...this is true and has more interpretations than you can imagine! One interpretation is - "perception", World disappears to me when I close my eyes, but its still existing! All my actions have meaning, doesn’t matter if I remember it, or comprehend the way others perceive!! The way we live could be ideal to us, when you explore it more, may be we would find that’s its not ideal to the World around you, it goes the other way too! The way the system progresses may be non-ideal to you, but what if it’s the way in best equilibrium. Well, the could-be best possible way to handle it is to enjoy those imperfections and try to rectify it. If not, realize it atleast!!