Parental thoughts!

Quite often I have this tendency to evaluate what’s been told to me. If you have read my earlier posts, you would definitely agree that am more aligned to not following anything blindly! As a matter of fact, it is a nice theory to practice, it helps in character development. The “why?” plays a major role in understanding a lot of simple yet complicated development. But sometimes, we are not aware of long-term consequences and the decisions that we stick on to might not be in the same spectrum of what’s been told to us. I’m talking about parental advises! Most of the times, when my parents suggest me something and if I take another road, I end up tracing my track back to the direction they pointed earlier! Not after listening to them, but after realizing that it’s a much better option.

I have this phenomenal belief in experience. I certainly agree that it’s the best teacher you can ever get. The refinement in the thought process and the perspective development that we get as we stumble upon simple things in life is priceless. If this is the way we realize and refine ourselves as we grow, imagine the development of our parents or anyone from our lineage! We can’t overlook the fact that time progresses with same speed for everyone, so as we get wiser, they do too. May be we can argue that the education, generation and communication gives us the perception that they have not perceived during their walks of realization. But, the level of comprehension that they have acquired on us based on innumerable hours of observation is as great as the knowledge that we think we possess.

“We seem to gain wisdom more readily through our failures than through our successes”

How true. The best part is that we have the experience right beside us in the form of our biological origin. The suggestions that we listen to, or atleast pretend to listen to, are generally not in our area of expertise. Certainly, my father wouldn’t talk or suggest me something about Gibbs free energy or cross-association. But he would, on financial/people management.

So, is it remotely possible to listen and follow their suggestion sans evaluation?

I tried and it was not! We have this so called “whying-syndrome” and have the tendency to think that we visualize things much better than anyone else because of our bond with the situation that we are in to. It’s almost impossible to get rid of that and base our decisions on a non-evaluatory basis. At the same time, it’s not a blunder to discuss and let them know that we have considered their vision as of one of our highways to achieve. May be we will comeback to their pathway, but it’s definitely not something that we can even of think of overlooking. Let it be completely different and opposite to what you think. It’s certainly worth a few-minute- evaluation.