"I don’t like the attitude of that person"
"I think he is so damn dirty and I don’t know how in the world he is going to cope without roomies"
"The boss extracts a lot form us. Give me a break! I am supposed to work for just 20 hrs a week"
"Look at the way they have typed their emails. How in the world they can be so damn unprofessional"
These are some of the sample complaints that we get to hear day-in and day-out. Both from the consciously non-idealistic-self as well as the hopefully-changing-world around us. Have we ever thought that may be we are thinking too much and wasting a whole lot of our time cribbing about something which isn’t worth the priceless time!
Complaints are something I hate to hear. I am sure that my acquaintances get to hear some from my side as well. After all I am still on a mission towards finding the path to ideality. As a matter of fact, I am doing it right now as we converse (not literally), cribbing about people who complain! We complain almost every hour of the day. For some of us, complaining has become habitual.
Why do we complain?
Think a little bit more on the instances we complain, why do we do it? The answer is that we tend to do go against nature! There is no point in fighting against it. Warriors are known for the battle they chose! Fight the fight that we can win! When we know that we cannot win we end up complaining!
Be it a thing or person or a circumstance, the beauty of nature is that it doesn’t hold on to your own laws of expectation always. It has its own way of expressing its preferences! When a person that we know (or atleast we think) is acting in a way defying the laws of expectations, we result in complaining! Forgetting the fact that it’s us in the first place framed the mindset of such a characterization and expecting the person to follow the pattern. It goes well with circumstances as well as things of any kind!
Can we ever quit and start enjoying those imperfections! Or at the least accept it as imperfections.
I tried and it’s quite possible in sometimes. The way I chose to betray my complaining syndrome is to practice the "Blame it on myself" strategy! Take Cricket for example, I tried to stop cribbing about the pitch quality on low-kept balls. Started paying more attention on covering the wickets and play those drives and punches ruling out the impossible penetrations! I stopped cribbing about the quality of vegetarian food that I get in the hangouts across the bible-belt and started to enjoy those fresh vegetables and salads with those different dressings followed by those late night curd-rice-stints!
"I think he is so damn dirty and I don’t know how in the world he is going to cope without roomies"
"The boss extracts a lot form us. Give me a break! I am supposed to work for just 20 hrs a week"
"Look at the way they have typed their emails. How in the world they can be so damn unprofessional"
These are some of the sample complaints that we get to hear day-in and day-out. Both from the consciously non-idealistic-self as well as the hopefully-changing-world around us. Have we ever thought that may be we are thinking too much and wasting a whole lot of our time cribbing about something which isn’t worth the priceless time!
Complaints are something I hate to hear. I am sure that my acquaintances get to hear some from my side as well. After all I am still on a mission towards finding the path to ideality. As a matter of fact, I am doing it right now as we converse (not literally), cribbing about people who complain! We complain almost every hour of the day. For some of us, complaining has become habitual.
Why do we complain?
Think a little bit more on the instances we complain, why do we do it? The answer is that we tend to do go against nature! There is no point in fighting against it. Warriors are known for the battle they chose! Fight the fight that we can win! When we know that we cannot win we end up complaining!
Be it a thing or person or a circumstance, the beauty of nature is that it doesn’t hold on to your own laws of expectation always. It has its own way of expressing its preferences! When a person that we know (or atleast we think) is acting in a way defying the laws of expectations, we result in complaining! Forgetting the fact that it’s us in the first place framed the mindset of such a characterization and expecting the person to follow the pattern. It goes well with circumstances as well as things of any kind!
Can we ever quit and start enjoying those imperfections! Or at the least accept it as imperfections.
I tried and it’s quite possible in sometimes. The way I chose to betray my complaining syndrome is to practice the "Blame it on myself" strategy! Take Cricket for example, I tried to stop cribbing about the pitch quality on low-kept balls. Started paying more attention on covering the wickets and play those drives and punches ruling out the impossible penetrations! I stopped cribbing about the quality of vegetarian food that I get in the hangouts across the bible-belt and started to enjoy those fresh vegetables and salads with those different dressings followed by those late night curd-rice-stints!
For a moment, think from the other perspective. Why the person would behave in such a way…or why did the situation unfolded in a particular way and why aren’t we accepting it. It’s reasoning! Living forward and learning backward! Possessing whatever you wanted in life is not always an easy thing to achieve, at the same time accepting and appreciating whatever you possess is an art! (Guess I am an arranged-marriage material)
On the other hand if you fail to complain about/acknowledge your own imperfections, you would never propagate towards achieving the unachievable! The idealistic case! Complaining about yourself to yourself is something that everyone needs to practice along with the obvious of amusements of enjoying the progressions that you gain from the earlier complaints!
Positive perception is ideality, reaching it is like realizing God or understanding self. One cannot achieve it easily. At the same time, if we can acknowledge the fact that "all we need is just that positive perception" to enjoy those imperfections which are strangled with the distributed beauties, the thorns become invisible and all you see is just those rose petals peeping in with a great smile!
6 comments:
y namakku ellaaam philosophy.. thermodynamics mandaikku eriduthaaaa :)
@ioiio
appo appo...ippadi serious stuff ezhudhanum...illati ezhdarthuku arthame illame poidum!!!..less serious stuff epome iruku...idhu sidela will surface sometimes...! Adhuku thaan strictly idealnu per :)
there is no harm in making complaints
unless we complain how r things going to change?
but complaint should not be coupled with hatred
sole purpose of complaints has to improve ie betterment of majority
@soumya
I agree...but the term improve is a relative term...what you think improvement doesnt noecessarily mean improvement to the person or thing you are complaining against..! On the other hand..you can complain things or person who/that defy the general rules of living!...but who are setting these rules...!
Thanks for droppin by!
a life without complaints would be hard to imagine, for the simple fact that 'its not a perfect world'... this probably means that there are going to be circumstances and frames of minds every now and then, to feel frustrated with certain ways of life, and certain ways of people... and the usual way it gets out is through complaints... right from a child who complains to its parents about someone being not nice to them, to an adult who complains about life not molding to his/her fallacies and wishes, we live in a constantly complaining life... what you can control is ONLY your own self...
transformation lies within!!!
Precicesly!
"Positive perception" - Life without complaining is ideality!one cant reach it easily...but acknowledge the fact that people and things are entagled with imperfections ...which might be perfect to them...! So to our self..cant we say...stop expecting and start accepting!?
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